Calling and getting help is one of the HARDEST steps! Here you can get a sense of my style and how I work in the initial stages of couple therapy. I know that the struggles in your relationship have increased so much that you are now scared, and I want you to know that I am here to help. I have the map, and I know where to take you on this journey to better communication, closer intimacy, and ease in your relationship.
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) was developed primarily by Dr. Susan Johnson. EFT works with family members as well as couples. Emotionally focused therapy is based on emotions, and learning to share them with your partner. The current research is showing that when doing EFT it not only helps the couple, but the individual, and can assist in the treatment of depression, anxiety, trauma, and much more. This type of treatment is being used around the world to help couples and families.
Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy
EFT's main goals are experience and share important emotional responses with your partner. This fosters the creation of a secure bond between partners, and helps you begin to unfold the carefully woven tapestry of your dance and begin to see your part, and your partners part in the problem. EFT can help create secure bonds with your partner by creating experiences in the present moment.
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
In general EFT is a shorter termed therapy approach. Ideally couples would come before they had traumas or injuries in their relationship, as it would go smoother. However, that is not normally the case and EFT couple therapy approach can be a faster, short-termed therapy technique if the couples are eager to connect. Studies have shows that 70-75% of couples move from an escalated place to a loving place and 90% report improvement using this technique. EFT has a clear concept to how to work with adult love and marital distress. It is a collaborative approach with the therapist and the couple’s relationship.
Techniques of Emotionally Focused Therapy
With delicate exploration of the current process of emotions, couples will be helped to see not only their own inter-personal depths, but also how their story effects their partner. Each partner is encouraged to express their deeper emotions toward their partner in a secure environment, building new neural pathways for a secure safe relationship. By one being a witness to the partner’s deeper emotional experience, the other is able to gain a new perspective and see the relationship as a whole differently. The goal is to move to a deeper, collaborative, and more productive partnership.